Rope Jam, Open dungeon, live figure drawing
Our Figure Drawing & Rope Jam Sunday -All are welcome, and any type of BDSM or kinky play is encouraged.
Tickets HERE
With the recent addition of "The Dungeon" at Oblige, attendees can now use the other half of the space to tie, play, socialize or relax durning the figure drawing.
This month there will be a figure-drawing opportunity at the Rope Jam. From 12:30-2:30, we will have models in rope for a few coordinated drawing sessions.
Three sessions will range from 20-30 minutes across different poses and different models. Oblige will have some materials on hand, but attendees should plan to bring their own sketching materials or tablets for digital sketches.
In general, this is meant to be an open, unstructured time for you to come in, grab a coffee or tea, relax, tie, skill share, and play. There’s no requirement to partake in the figure-drawing portion of the day. If this is not your thing, you are welcome to simply use the space however you wish during this time.
Our Open Play & Sunday Rope Jam -All are welcome, and any type of BDSM or kinky play is encouraged.
In general, this is meant to be an open, unstructured time for you to come in, grab a coffee or tea, relax, tie, skill share, and play. There’s no requirement to partake in the figure-drawing portion of the day. If this is not your thing, you are welcome to simply use the space however you wish during this time.
Cost:
Free for Members
$10 for a Member’s Guest
$20 for General Guests (50% for recent LEAP attendees)
No ticket sales at the door
Doors open at Noon. Come and go as you please until 5:00 PM.
L.E.A.P. Workshop - Relationship Anarchy & Power Exchange - with Rhapsody (BDSM/Kink Style Class)
Presented by @Rhapsody_in_Blue
Relationship Anarchy fits a lot of different kinds of relating under its umbrella. But what about power and authority exchange? Can you be a Dom or a sub and also a Relationship Anarchist? Absolutely! Let's talk about how!
All experience levels welcome
Solo or Partnered
This class will be presented in lecture/discussion style format
About Your Presenter
Rhapsody_In_Blue has been an active part of MI fetish and kink culture for the last 9 years. She is a venue owner, educator, community builder, advocate, and semi professional pain in the ass. She enjoys clever conversation, solving complicated problems with creative people, and craft cocktails. She is constantly practicing her communication skills and karaoke performances. Accepts bribes in the form of stickers, coffee, and donations to her Lansing based kink venue @TheGallery.
Rope Basics Refresher / Social Hour: 6-7
Formal Class: 7-8:45(ish)
Stay & Play until 11:00
Learn, Explore, Apply, & Play. LGBTQIA+ and friends welcomed
Performance & Play -“Sharps & Sadism”: A Hook Suspension Performance w/ Nightmare Vex & Heavenleigh
Since July of 2021 Oblige has hosted a variety erotic BDSM performance, alongside shibari and burlesque show. This evening we bring you another one of a kind edgeplay performance.
In this performance Nightmare Vex and Heavenleigh will be bringing you a "gentle" reminder that playing with pain isn't all that matters about sadomasochism, it’s about how we connect with each other and ourselves. (More details below, please read them)
More Details and Your Trigger Warning
If you know the name @NightmareVex, then you know what we're about to get from this night’s performance. Blood, intensity, and most importantly, a deep passion for pain in all of its facets. For those of you that haven't had the pleasure of seeing a Nightmare Vex performance, Vex has been a staple of the body suspension and edgeplay scene for 7 years, here in Detroit and stages across the USA. Vex's style blends precision with chaos, bringing a unique creativity to sharps and sadism. Do not miss an opportunity to see what they do next.
Who would be a better bottom for Vex, than one with a pain drive to match! @_Heavenleigh will be making her debut into the BDSM performance world. This may be her first time on stage at Oblige, but she has ten suspensions and hundreds of Big Ass needles under her belt, she's not afraid to share her suffering with the world.
See & Do
Special to Oblige, Vex will be offering attendees an opportunity to experience hook suspensions or hook pulls during the party, following the performance. These spots are very limited and require a consultation far in advance the event. Interested ticket holder should reach out to us at obligerope@gmail.com for details on how to schedule a consult.
Doors and Social Hour at 8:00
Performances @9:00
Play party until 1:00am
Elevation Rope Lab - “Single Columns For Single Points”
This is class is a vetted class with limited capacity. To attend please see the "How to attend" section below.
This is a new style event by community request. Very different from our LEAP classes. We like to think of it as a more advanced “intensive style” workshop. Somewhere we can really hone our skills, practice, progress, and become inspired.
Elevation Rope Lab is for those that already understand the fundamentals of Japanese inspired rope bondage. It’s a space to explore intermediate and advanced ropes concepts and skills during the primary class/lab. It is also an opportunity to ask questions or share about rope topics/ties of your choosing and explore/learn as a group or a couple small groups.
June's Primary Class/Lab:
Presented by Paul & Courtney “Single Columns For Single Points” We will be covering how to tie single columns for single point partials, full suspensions, dynamic transitions and how to all a little extra stretch in your scenes. We will also be discussing risk mitigation, rope selection, and upline management tips. Note single pointing these ties is not required to make these useful.
Attendees should have a working knowledge of uplines, suspension sustainable harness and single columns.
Format for these evenings are as follows.
Doors at 5:00
Primary Class/Lab: 5:15-6:45/7
Skill Share Lab: 7-8:15
The space will close at 8:30 for non-members (those unaccompanied by a member)
How to attend
Those wishing to attend can request to do so by DM and marking themselves as “going” or “interested” on this event. Please indicate in your DM if you will be, applying ropes, receiving ropes, switching or auditing. If we are not familiar with your skill set, we will reach out to discuss the prerequisites. Those wishing to audit only will be given the criteria at that time.
From there approved attendees will receive event details and ticketing links.
Prerequisites :
The expectation is that all attendees come with a practiced understanding of Japanese inspired rope bondage. What that looks like will be different for all of us. Basically if you feel comfortable following along and keeping up with most rope classes, you will be able to follow along and keep up here. If not you are always welcome to audit the class and soak up what you can.
People applying ropes should have a working understanding of suspension uplines and attaching styles.
People receiving ropes should have body awareness and be able to and willing to effectively communicate their limits while in ropes
All attendees, tying or being tied, should have a good understanding of nerve risks and indicators of trouble. They should also be able to care for themselves and be accountable for their own tolerances while in an educational setting
Attendees at any skill level are welcome to audit the class
You will want a full rope kit and something to take notes
This evening is designed for partnered tying, while the ticketing for the events is per individual.
L.E.A.P. Workshop - "Body Bamboo" with Midnight_Shibari & I_am_her
Presented by @Midnight_Shibari and @I-am-her
Adding bamboo lashing to your rope ties can create a new unique sensation of structure and constraint while increasing the versatility of your scenes. In this class, we’ll explore how to incorporate bamboo for structure, stability, and creative expression. We’ll be demonstrating how to attach bamboo poles to various locations on the body as well as specific uplines that can be used for partial suspensions. Having a partner for the class is encouraged, but not mandatory. Many of the ties can be self-tied.
Oblige will have body bamboo on hand to the class to practice with and for purchase should attendees like to take a set home for themselves.
This is an In-Person ONLY class. No LiveStream or Recording
A tying partner is encouraged, but not necessary. Please feel free to sit in and just listen or tie solo if that’s your comfort. This is a class that will highlight and educate you in the art of adding an edge to the rope we already love.
Level: All levels
Prerequisites/Tools: basic rope safety knowledge; 4+ hanks of 25-30ft rope; safety shears or similar rope cutting tool
Rope Basics Refresher / Social Hour: 6-7
Formal Class: 7-8:45(ish)
Stay & Play until 11:00
Learn, Explore, Apply, & Play. LGBTQIA+ and friends welcomed
Neo-ipponnawa Intensive With Miki & Mirmirrr (A Two Day Kinbaku Intensive & Performance)
Neo-ipponnawa Intensive With @Young_Miki & @Mirmirrr
Our most unique offering yet. Very rarely do we see shibari/kinbaku artists that have taken their passion to the point of creating their own unique style.
Neo-ipponawa by Miki (@young_miki or @kinbakuartistmiki) comes from his years of experience traveling and studying in Japan with kinbaku greats Murasaki Haruan (Yukimura Ryu) & Tenma Haru (Tenma Ryu) and more.
This two day intensive focuses on Neo-ipponawa, derived from Japanese Ipponnawa and Newaza techniques. This style is a living medium that fosters creativity, collaboration, and the development of a unique rope connection between different partners using soft skills and limited ropes.
This Neo-ipponawa Intensive includes The Performance & Play party with the Saturday and Sunday Classes.
📌 Website Event Page
Tickets are per tying pair. Only 10 spots available
(to audit the intensive as an individual please email obligerope@gmail.com)
In an effort to make these type of special sessions as accessible as possible, we are offering "a la carte" tickets for the Performance and the Special LEAP class
Special L.E.A.P. Workshop- “Kinbakuartistmiki style 101” with young_miki & Mirmirrr
This is an "a la carte" or "breakout" event, from our Neo-ipponnawa Intensive Weekend. You can find the full intensive information HERE
Join us form Baltimore, Maryland, @Young_Miki & @MirMirrr will be presenting this very special Saturday LEAP class.
Very rarely do we see shibari/kinbaku artists that have taken their passion to the point of creating their own unique style.
Kinbakuartistmiki style is rooted in minimalistic / simple rope patterns that implement a progressive nature which has been inspired by his teachers, mentors, collaboraters, and performance background.
In this introductory course, they will discuss their rope philosophies, Japanese style-influenced rope bundling that incorporates rope handling techniques, and learn one key pattern in Kinbakuartistmiki's style.
Prerequisites:
All student levels welcome. This class is designed for tying pairs though there is still lots of value to be had for individuals auditing the class. Attendees should bring notebooks and 2-3 hanks of 5mm-6mm natural fiber rope at 8-10 meter in length.
For all genders, body types, and experience levels!
Schedule:
Doors at 11:00AM
Class 12:00PM - 2:00PM
Space will remain open until 3:00PM to enjoy as you like
Performance & Play: “Illuminating Gratitude” - A Shibari/Kinbaku performance by young-miki & Mirmirr
Shibari and Erotic Rope performances are the cornerstone of our Performance and Play event.
This month we are welcoming two very special performers from Baltimore, Maryland.
@Young_Miki & @MirMirrr
📌 Website Event Page
Join us for a sensory experience highlighting the rope relationship developed and expressed through their unique style, followed by a BDSM play party.
This event will be open to general admission attendees
**All tickets are per person -or- included with our Neo-ipponnawaWeekend Intensive
Doors and Social Hour at 8:00pm
Performances at 9:00pm
Stay and play after the performance until 1:00am
Please come early to get checked in. Doors are closed at 10:30pm. No guaranteed entry during the performance. If you are buying tickets for a person other than yourself you will need to buy them separate and please use their proper information.
Attendees are welcome to dress however they are comfortable, though nice evening wear and kink/fetish wear are always appreciated. If you like to be "a little extra," this is a night to do that. After the performance, feel free to stay and play. Use the space as it was intended. Explore “The Dungeon” and Enjoy “The Rope Room." Find all of the space's hidden features... 😈
Doors and Social Hour at 8:00
Performances @9:00
Play party until 1:00am
L.E.A.P. Workshop -Canes & Caning w/ MestreDaDor. Joined by PersuasivePeach & brattygrl96
This week’s LEAP class, @MestreDaDor starts us down a path of “kinky shit we didn’t know we were into until we tired”, CANES
Legendary creator of the sought-after square Luxon cane, Len is an avid BDSM enthusiast with a particular fondness for canes and a passion for understanding not just the how to but why. To that end, this class is a deep dive into all aspects of caning, covering the physics of the swing and impact, cane construction decisions, practicing methodologies for tops, and processing techniques for bottoms. Joining him as demo bunnies and to give a bottoms perspective will be the wonderful @PersuasivePeach & @brattygrl96
Caning is often seen as something brutal and extreme but it can also be soothing and almost therapeutic.
This class is intended for all levels of practitioner, from complete novice to well-seasoned, and will be presented primarily as a lecture/demo with plenty of time for Q&A.
We will also have a couple/few service tops on hand for that want to “learn more” or Demo canes, firsthand during our “Stay and Play portion of the evening.
Social Hour: 6-7
Formal Class: 7-8:45(ish)
Stay & Play until 11:00
Learn, Explore, Apply, & Play. LGBTQIA+ and friends welcomed
Hashira Immersion Weekend With Mr_Arrow and subzq
This three day immersion experience will focus on Hashira Shibari (pole or pillar binding)
Hashira Shibari is the Japanese inspired rope bondage art of tying someone to an upright post, beam, or column. Translating to "pole or pillar binding," this advanced technique restricts movement by pressing the partner against a stationary surface, creating deep immobility, intense weight distribution, and strong erotic tension.
Before modern ceiling suspensions and bamboo rigs, tying to architectural pillars (or hashira) was the standard method of choice in historic Japanese homes. The post can act as a rigid anchor point to achieve kneeling, seated, standing, or partial suspension scenes.
This Immersion Weekend
-Friday Night Special LEAP Class
-Saturday full day workshop
-Saturday Wicked Weekend “The Wet Party”
-Sunday Rope Jam and Figure Drawling
This event combines all of the above into one ticket and sign up.
Tickets are $220 per tying pair
Special L.E.A.P. - "Introduction to Hashira" with Mr-Arrow & subzq2
"Introduction to Hashira" with Mr-Arrow & subzq2
This class is an a la carte excerpt from our Hashira Immersion Weekend presented by @Mr_Arrow & @subzq2
(This is an in-person only event. There will be no livestream or recording.)
Hashira Shibari is the Japanese inspired rope bondage art of tying someone to an upright post, beam, or column. Translating to "pole or pillar binding," this advanced technique restricts movement by pressing the partner against a stationary surface, creating deep immobility, intense weight distribution, and strong erotic tension.
Before modern ceiling suspensions and bamboo rigs, tying to architectural pillars (or hashira) was the standard method of choice in historic Japanese homes. The post can act as a rigid anchor point to achieve kneeling, seated, standing, or partial suspension scenes.
This session will start by explaining the concept of a hashira and how to prepare a vertical pole for rope play / suspension by creating a variety of pole hard points. We will explore standing and seated ties, and will conclude by teaching the “classic” hashira suspension, where the bottom is upright with their back tied to the pole
Additional hashiras will be installed around The Rope Room for this weekend
About your presenters
@Mr_Arrow & @subzq2 are rope and kink educators. Mr_Arrow is the creator of the “Dungeon Pole” style of dungeon furniture, which we believe is the first free-standing, portable vertical pole designed for kinky play that is strong enough to perform suspension. Details at https://dungeonpoles.com/resources.
They have also written a collection of essays about kink and D/s, informed by their 24/7, M/s relationship as a longtime married couple. Available for free at https://dungeonpoles.com/power_and_love.
Rope Basics Refresher / Social Hour: 6-7
Formal Class: 7-8:45(ish)
Stay & Play until 11:00
Learn, Explore, Apply, & Play. LGBTQIA+ and friends welcomed
Full day workshop: "Hashira Shibari Workshop": With Mr_Arrow &subzq2
This day is an a la carte excerpt from our Hashira Immersion Weekend
In this one-day workshop we will study fundamental techniques for iconic hashira shibari.Hashira Shibari is the Japanese inspired rope bondage art of tying someone to an upright post, beam, or column. Translating to "pole or pillar binding," this advanced technique restricts movement by pressing the partner against a stationary surface, creating deep immobility, intense weight distribution, and strong erotic tension.Before modern ceiling suspensions and bamboo rigs, tying to architectural pillars (or hashira) was the standard method of choice in historic Japanese homes. The post can act as a rigid anchor point to achieve kneeling, seated, standing, or partial suspension scenes.Additional hashiras will be installed around The Rope Room for this weekend
More Information on our website HERE
Direct Ticket Link HERE
Tickets are per tying pair (only 10 tying pairs available)
To audit this event and attend as an individual please email ObligeRope@gmail.com
More about the focus of "The Hashira Workshop"
In particular we will focus on:
Saturday Morning: Using the Pole as a Co-Top
The pole is much more than just a series of hard points. It is an imposing physical character in the scene. This session will teach: (1) the breadth of play possibilities on the pole; (2) how pole play can be a series of dynamic transitions through a continuous D/s experience, and (3) how time on the pole can actually teach the players the skill of giving and receiving dominant touch.
This session will also teach additional variations of “classic” hashira suspension that was introduced the night before
Saturday Afternoon: Pole Variations
This session will go beyond the “classic” hashira suspension and cover other variations such has side suspension, full inversion, and vertical hog ties.
The "Wet" Party - A BDSM Edge Play Party
Sixth Annual Summer “Wet” Party at Oblige
This signature party has been amongst our more mysterious and coveted parties. Attendees take this theme in any and all directions making “wet” dreams come true and adding to Oblige lore.
You can plan on:
The boat being back
T-shirt give away 😜
Play sheets to get messy on
And some tried and true “wet” party games
Bring your own supplies for your own thing and a plan to clean up after yourselves. No shower drain clogs this year, please. Keep the unfractionated coconut oil at home and remove ALL cake and frosting from your body before showering. We have squeegees for you if needed.
Doors at 8
Stay and play until 1 AM
Private members are welcome to watch the sun come up.
Rope Jam & Figure Drawing Sunday (Live Figure Drawing in Rope 12:30-2:30ish with Mr_Arrow))
Our Figure Drawing & Rope Jam Sunday -All are welcome, and any type of BDSM or kinky play is encouraged.
Tickets HERE
With the recent addition of "The Dungeon" at Oblige, attendees can now use the other half of the space to tie, play, socialize or relax durning the figure drawing.
This month there will be a figure-drawing opportunity at the Rope Jam. From 12:30-2:30, we will have models in rope for a few coordinated drawing sessions.
Three sessions will range from 20-30 minutes across different poses and different models. Oblige will have some materials on hand, but attendees should plan to bring their own sketching materials or tablets for digital sketches.
In general, this is meant to be an open, unstructured time for you to come in, grab a coffee or tea, relax, tie, skill share, and play. There’s no requirement to partake in the figure-drawing portion of the day. If this is not your thing, you are welcome to simply use the space however you wish during this time.
Our Open Play & Sunday Rope Jam -All are welcome, and any type of BDSM or kinky play is encouraged.
In general, this is meant to be an open, unstructured time for you to come in, grab a coffee or tea, relax, tie, skill share, and play. There’s no requirement to partake in the figure-drawing portion of the day. If this is not your thing, you are welcome to simply use the space however you wish during this time.
Cost:
Free for Members
$10 for a Member’s Guest
$20 for General Guests (50% for recent LEAP attendees)
No ticket sales at the door
Doors open at Noon. Come and go as you please until 5:00 PM.
L.E.A.P. Workshop -Decorative Needle Play with Rooskie
This is a BDSM/Kink "Dungeon Play Class" presented by @Rooskie69
Getting back to ALL the things we love to explore at Oblige. While needle play is something we have covered several times here this class offers a different and purposeful take on sharps play. One where intention and precision matter.
Join @Rooskie69 as he shares his experience and technique with decorative needle play. Class will touch on safety, technique, negotiations, tools, intentional design elements, and body placement when “engaging” with needles and stencils.
This class will be in-person only
Following class there will be a couple service tops on hand to help attendees demo and explore.
Social Hour: 6-7
Formal Class: 7-8:45(ish)
Stay & Play until 11:00
Learn, Explore, Apply, & Play. LGBTQIA+ and friends welcomed
Announcing: “Sanctum”: An Invite Only High Protocol Party
Announcing “Sanctum” @Oblige: A High Protocol Night:
This event is by invite or approved request only
If you've attended events with us before and are interested in this evening, please reach out and request attendance.
You are summoned to a sanctum of refined power and exquisite surrender at Oblige. This is not merely a play party; it is a curated space for the discerning power exchange player, a space where the intricate dance of devotion and command is revered. Here, within a framework of sacred High Protocol, we invite you to shed the mundane and step into the full expression of your D/s dynamic. This is an evening dedicated to the art of power exchange, designed for seasoned practitioners, devoted couples, and solitary seekers who yearn for a connection forged in honor, respect, and profound intensity.
More details will be revealed with you formal invitation
Doors at 8
Stay and play until 1 AM
Private members are welcome to watch the sun come up.
Special L.E.A.P. - Full Day Worship & Sex Magic Workshop (SAVE THE DATE)
Welcome to our Erotic Spirituality Series at Oblige
A four part series building to, and in preparation for our “TEMPLE” night October 17th
Full series class list here
About this event
This will be a full day multi class workshop focusing on Worship & Sex Magic. Featuring Nala, Sudo, Adrianna & Iorthani
(Details and Tickets coming soon)
Schedule:
Doors at Noon
Classes 1:00PM - 8:00PM
Dinner Break 4:00PM - 5:00PM
Space will remain open following the class until 8:30PM
L.E.A.P. Workshop- "Intro to suspension: Equipment, Suspension Physics, Upline"- w/Flynn & emmie
Presented by: @Flynn_Racer and @-emmie-
Intro to suspension: Equipment, Suspension Physics, Upline attachments, and upline lock offs for partial suspension
Starting your rope journey? so many different equipment options, I will go through the needed elements, and some information to assist your exploration and purchases. Then we discuss the Physics of suspension and mechanical advantage. Follow-along, Demo and Do upline discussions, lock off functions,and exploring the various upline attachments and their applications, and the various upline lockoffs and their applications.
Rope Basics Refresher / Social Hour: 6-7
Formal Class: 7-8:45(ish)
Stay & Play until 11:00
Learn, Explore, Apply, & Play. LGBTQIA+ and friends welcomed
Bonus BDSM Thursday -mid week pizza & play party
Looks like there’s an extra Thursday in July, so why not celebrate with a bit of kinky fun?
No class this week. No formal performances. Instead, we’re bringing in some pizza, dragging all the furniture out, and having a good old-fashioned play party. Play as you wish within the rules until midnight, this week.
Come as you are or dress as kinky as you like.
Doors at 7 (not 6:00 this week!)
Pizza to follow shortly after
Stay and play until MIDNIGHT
Special L.E.A.P. - Kink for Somatics & Trauma Healing
Welcome to our Erotic Spirituality Series at Oblige
A four part series building to, and in preparation for our “TEMPLE” night October 17th
Full series class list here
About this event
This will be a special evening focusing on Kink for Somatics & Trauma Healing. Featuring Sudo & Adrianna
Schedule:
Doors at 5:00
Classes 6:00PM - 8:00PM
Space will remain open following the class until 9:00PM
“Roped In” A Rope Bottoming Intensive Weekend
This Rope Bottoming Intensive is collection of in-depth workshops on the skills, safety, and psychology of being the person in ropes. Unlike classes focusing on tying techniques, this intensive will have a dedicated focus on the role of rope receivers core skill development, physical and emotional management, safety, and active participation in the scene.
While this weekend is focused on the persons in ropes it does not mean we won’t be tying or that the information covered isn’t relevant to rope tops. Bottoms need tops at this intensive just as much as tops would need a bottom for other types of rope bondage related classes.
Topics for the weekend
Physical Presence and Somatics: Learning how to be present in the body, pain processing, using breathing techniques, and understanding posture to manage the tension and weight of the ropes.
Safety and Limits: Intense focus on anatomy, preventing injuries (such as nerve damage), recognizing risks, and communicating boundaries effectively.
Active Bottoming: Moving away from the idea of the bottom as a "prop" or “model” and fostering the role of the bottom as an active participant who directs their own experience and comfort.
Psychology and "Rope Space": Managing the mental and emotional aspects of being restricted, including navigating "rope space" and providing or receiving emotional aftercare
Communication and Consent: Developing tools for articulating needs before, during, and after a scene, including effective use of safe words and "checking in".
Your Bottoming Intensive Presenters
Violet Rain
Insignia
Golden Courtney
...More Coming Soon
Special L.E.A.P. -“Sex Beyond Pleasure” With Nala and Sudo
Welcome to our Erotic Spirituality Series at Oblige
A four part series building to, and in preparation for our “TEMPLE” night October 17th
Full series class list here
About this event
This will be a special evening focusing on “Sex Beyond Pleasure”. Featuring Sudo & Nala
Schedule:
Doors at 5:00
Classes 6:00PM - 8:00PM
Space will remain open following the class until 9:00PM
Template: The Big O Discussion Munch: (Copy)
Psychology of kink - A follow up discussion to a couple of our recent popular classes
“Finding your why” and “Intellectual Sadism”
In this discussion we will address some of the questions that we couldn’t get to in class and your own personal questions around these topics.
Come share your our own thoughts/questions. Let’s talk it all through, share our experiences, and help old and new friends find their path.
Meal orders and ticket dead line is Tuesday before by 10AM.
Meal choices are Italian, Chicken, Turkey, Vegan, Gluten-Free. Please note your choice after your Fet Name when you register on the website. These will be pre-packaged servings made fresh that day.
Event & Discussion Format:
If this is your first event at Oblige, please try and arrive as close to doors opening as you can. You may arrive at 6:15 if you like.
Social hour and meals 6:30-7:10: Meal are provided by a local deli. Sandwich requests can be submitted with your sign up and ticketing or you can simply pick from a verity of different sandwiches on hand.
Formal Group Discussion 7:10 -9:00 Attendees anonymously submit questions/talking points/comments durning the social hour of the munch. Upon entering everyone will be giving a blank 3x5 card to write their thoughts on.
Those 3x5 cards are turned in and then organized by the discussion facilitators.
When the discussion session starts the facilitators read each card outlaid and attendees given the opportunity to discuss as a large group.
Following the group discussion the space will remain open until 10:00 for continued small group discussions, socializing, and/or tours of the space.
There is no BDSM and/or Sexual play allowed at this event.
Pride Burlesque Night: Performance & Play
The Burlesque Night has become one of our favorite performance events at Oblige. Fans and feather boas. Pasties and tassels. The seductive theatrical displays. The music. And of course, our performer's.
Special to us for Pride Month, the show will be featuring all LGBTQIA+ performers.
Host/Emcee:
Eve Vale with Oshun Hathor
Performers:
Mariana Contreras
Kingston Blue
Buzi
Their hour & a half ong show will set the stage for a kinky as fuck evening as only Oblige does.
Doors and Social Hour at 8:00
Performances @9:00
Play party until 1:00am
L.E.A.P. Workshop- “Torture Through Constraint” with Peach & anyette
Presented by: @PersuasivePeach and @anyette
What happens when one rope is enough? This class examines torture through constraint, fatigue, and intentional denial using a single continuous rope. By limiting materials, we sharpen awareness of the body, breath, and the slow accumulation of discomfort over time.
Participants will explore how posture, stillness, and micro-adjustments can transform simple structures into intense experiences. The focus is not on elaborate ties, but on how presence, pacing, and choice shape sensation.
This class will require 3-5 hanks of 7-10m rope and you do not need a tying partner to perform all the content covered.
This will be a lecture, demo, see and do workshop. Expect to leave with a new tie or two and some new ideas for spicy time.
About your presenters
@PersuasivePeach is a rope switch, edge player, and collared submissive (MDD’s the lucky one) based in Northwest Ohio. With a little over four years in the scene, she’s taught or supported classes on breath play, cold branding, caning, sensory deprivation, cigar play, and- of course- rope.
She leads the monthly Toledo Area Tied Up rope class, where she helps participants build skill, confidence, and connection through hands-on learning and thoughtful challenge. Peach enjoys exploring the edges of comfort and control, and she’s passionate about helping others find their own rhythm in rope, whether they’re flying or staying grounded.
@Anyette (she/they) is a submissive rope bottom from the Detroit area with an affinity for play that evokes discomfort and distress, and she believes that the best way to explore those thoroughly and safely is through transparent and efficient communication.
Anyette’s will be covering concepts like active bottoming in rope, embracing intentional discomfort, and how to establish efficient communication with your rope top so you both feel safe and connected (even when things get a little uncomfy – intentionally, of course)
Rope Basics Refresher / Social Hour: 6-7
Formal Class: 7-8:45(ish)
Stay & Play until 11:00
Learn, Explore, Apply, & Play. LGBTQIA+ and friends welcomed
The Big O Discussion Munch: Psychology of kink
This month's discussion:
Psychology of kink - A follow up discussion to a couple of our recent popular classes
“Finding your why” and “Intellectual Sadism”
In this discussion we will address some of the questions that we couldn’t get to in class and your own personal questions around these topics.
Come share your our own thoughts/questions. Let’s talk it all through, share our experiences, and help old and new friends find their path. (Event & Discussion Below)
vDoors open at 6:30PM and the munch will run until 10:00PM.
Social hour takes place before and after the actual discussion.
Meal orders and ticket dead line is Tuesday before by 10AM.
Meal choices are Italian, Chicken, Turkey, Vegan, Gluten-Free. Please note your choice after your Fet Name when you register on the website. These will be pre-packaged servings made fresh that day.
Event & Discussion Format:
If this is your first event at Oblige, please try and arrive as close to doors opening as you can. You may arrive at 6:15 if you like.
Social hour and meals 6:30-7:10: Meal are provided by a local deli. Sandwich requests can be submitted with your sign up and ticketing or you can simply pick from a verity of different sandwiches on hand.
Formal Group Discussion 7:10 -9:00 Attendees anonymously submit questions/talking points/comments durning the social hour of the munch. Upon entering everyone will be giving a blank 3x5 card to write their thoughts on.
Those 3x5 cards are turned in and then organized by the discussion facilitators.
When the discussion session starts the facilitators read each card outlaid and attendees given the opportunity to discuss as a large group.
Following the group discussion the space will remain open until 10:00 for continued small group discussions, socializing, and/or tours of the space.
There is no BDSM and/or Sexual play allowed at this event.
Special L.E.A.P. - Erotic Energy Exchange with Autumn and Adrianna
Welcome to our Erotic Spirituality Series at Oblige
A four part series building to, and in preparation for our “TEMPLE” night October 17th
Full series class list here
About this event
Presented by Autumn and Adrianna
This Energy Exchange class will help you learn the basics of working with energy and understanding energy systems within yourself, so that you can bring energetic awareness into play with partners. We’ll explore a variety of energy exchange practices that can add intention, depth, and attunement into your scenes, and share a variety of ways energetic awareness can be added into play.
Schedule:
Doors at 5:00
Classes 6:00PM - 8:00PM
Space will remain open following the class until 9:00PM
L.E.A.P. Workshop - Hypnokink 101- with H-ST (BDSM/Kink Style Class)
Presented by @H-ST
Do you like to play mind games with someone? Don’t you wish that you could play with someone’s mind to make them do all sorts of fun things? Want to know what Hypnokink is all about? Learn all the basics in this class, from negotiating pre-scene and the importance of safety, to mythbusting misconceptions about hypnosis and hypnokink, to some fun demonstrations. You can also be sure to get your questions answered as well in this 101 class!
All experience levels welcome
Solo or Partnered
This class will be presented in lecture/demo style format
About Your Presenter
H-ST has had a fascination with psychology for as long as they could remember. So much so that they joined the kink community (online initially) in October of 2021. Joining the irl community in May of 2022, H-ST’s interest in hypnokink/erotic hypnosis was their main drive. They have helped out with A2TNG and at the end of January 2024 they became a board member for the group. They also run the Wandering Mindgazers currently, the local hypnokink group. When H-ST went to Charmed!2024 , they had a desire to teach locally in their community. H-ST has been a subject for since January of 2022, and has been a hypnotist (becoming an hypnoswitch also) since January of 2024. Meeting many different people to learn, grow, and evolve has been such a blessing, and teaching is a way that they would like to give back.
Social Hour: 6-7
Formal Class: 7-8:45(ish)
Stay & Play until 11:00
Learn, Explore, Apply, & Play. LGBTQIA+ and friends welcomed
Performance & Play Night @Oblige: “A Traditional Kinbaku Performance” with Odys and Violet
Shibari and Erotic Rope performances are the cornerstone of our Performance and Play event. This month’s performance features two very special practitioners. Joining us from their respective studios in Virginia and Maryland.
We are delighted to welcome them back to Detroit for a "Gote Immersion Weekend". We met them in 2022 and we were enthralled. In 2023 they performed for a small group at Oblige and we fell in love
Your Performers:
Doors and Social Hour at 8:00
Performances @9:00
Play party until 1:00am
"Semenawa Research Meeting #16" (SRM) Gote Shibari with Odys & Violet
This meeting will immerse us into the holy grail of Japanese rope bondage:
Gote (後手) shibari (tying hands behind the back)
Also commonly referred to as "Box Tie, Takate Kote or simply TK
The meeting will feature @Odys and @VioletRain where they will discuss the emotional and physical roles that Gote shibari plays between two partners.
Tickets are per person (no tying partner required)
The discussion will dive into evolution of Gote shibari in prominent Japanese kinbaku styles using historical notes from Showa Era bondage to modern times. We will break down the elements of Gote shibari that progressively mix hard and soft skills to make tying hands behind the back an experience. The discussion will be followed by a tying demo that will emphasize various discussed aspects of the Gote shibari.
The unique and intimate nature of this meeting would allow participants to discuss, observe and ask questions throughout the meeting, as well as taking photos from various vantage points during the tying demo.
SRM is inspired by Naka sensei’s semenawa study group in Tokyo and held in the US with his blessing.
Logistics:
This is discussion/demo educational event. No partner is required to attend.
Social Hour: 6-7
Formal Class: 7-8:45(ish)
Stay & Tie/Play until 11:00
Learn, Explore, Apply, & Play. LGBTQIA+ and friends welcomed
Gote (後手) Shibari Immersion with Odys and Violet
Gote (後手) Shibari Immersion with Odys and Violet
This three day immersion experience will focus on Gote Shibari (Hands behind the back) Also commonly referred to as "Box Tie, Takate Kote or simply TK.
Presenters for the weekend:
@Odys |
This event "Gote Shibari Immersion" combines all of the following into one ticket and sign up for a tying pair. Full weekend details & tickets HERE (ONLY 10 tying pair tickets will be available)
A la carte tickets available in each of the links below
Sunday Bottom’s Round Table with @GoldenCourtney, Violet, Paige, & @Veers77
-- Only available to Immersion and Saturday Gote Lab attendees
Brief details below. Full schedule and details on our website. HERE
Sunday Elevation Rope Lab - Flynn’s “Unboxed” Tie
This is class is a vetted class with limited capacity. To attend please see the "How to attend" section below.
This is a new style event by community request. Very different from our LEAP classes. We like to think of it as a more advanced “intensive style” workshop. Somewhere we can really hone our skills, practice, progress, and become inspired.
Elevation Rope Lab is for those that already understand the fundamentals of Japanese inspired rope bondage. It’s a space to explore intermediate and advanced ropes concepts and skills during the primary class/lab. It is also an opportunity to ask questions or share about rope topics/ties of your choosing and explore/learn as a group or a couple small groups.
May's Primary Class/Lab:
Presented by Flynn & Emmie “Unboxed Tie” TK3/tengu variant. An upper body harness for folks uncomfortable with the arm positioning of a TK/boxtie
Attendees should have a working knowledge of stem based TKs or other complex upper body ties
Format for these evenings are as follows.
Doors at 5:00
Primary Class/Lab: 5:15-6:45/7
Skill Share Lab: 7-8:15
The space will close at 8:30 for non-members (those unaccompanied by a member)
How to attend
Those wishing to attend can request to do so by DM and marking themselves as “going” or “interested” on this event. Please indicate in your DM if you will be, applying ropes, receiving ropes, switching or auditing. If we are not familiar with your skill set, we will reach out to discuss the prerequisites. Those wishing to audit only will be given the criteria at that time.
From there approved attendees will receive event details and ticketing links.
Prerequisites :
The expectation is that all attendees come with a practiced understanding of Japanese inspired rope bondage. What that looks like will be different for all of us. Basically if you feel comfortable following along and keeping up with most rope classes, you will be able to follow along and keep up here. If not you are always welcome to audit the class and soak up what you can.
People applying ropes should have a working understanding of suspension uplines and attaching styles.
People receiving ropes should have body awareness and be able to and willing to effectively communicate their limits while in ropes
All attendees, tying or being tied, should have a good understanding of nerve risks and indicators of trouble. They should also be able to care for themselves and be accountable for their own tolerances while in an educational setting
Attendees at any skill level are welcome to audit the class
You will want a full rope kit and something to take notes
This evening is designed for partnered tying, while the ticketing for the events is per individual.
“Melanated Tops Night”- A BDSM Play Party (by invite only or approved request)
Attendance is by invite or approved request only. This event post is for those of us that use this platform to manage our social calendars
Announcing, “Melanated Tops Night”- An Invite only party co-hosted by Oblige and Eve Vale with Sidanee Bella
Tickets are on our “Invite Only” website page. Link will provided to approved attendees.
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This is a night to celebrate the sensuality and power of Black and POC Dominants (Tops/Dommes/Doms) Everyone is welcome however only Black and POC folx will be permitted to “top” in play scenes.
Special to us this evening:
"Impact play and CBT performances throughout the evening by Black Doms & Dommes."
This strongly vetted party will be in the same regard as our members only/ private party night. No area of the space will be restricted and all attendees should feel free to explore and play as they feel comfortable, abiding to the event protocol.
Come and be who you are, as you like, explore and enjoy this space and energy.
Attendees are welcome to bring food, beverages, and service wear for their own service related scenes/protocol.
**Attendance is by invite or approved request only. Please reach out with a PM or email to request the ticket link. @oblige | @GoddessEveV | @EbonPetal
We will NOT be approving:
Anyone we don’t know,
Anyone that does not have an established presence in the BDSM/kink community
-or-Anyone that can't provide a glowing references from someone above.
PM, or Email with any questions you may have or if you want assistants in plotting out more elaborate/detailed/specific scene. We are here to serve.
@Oblige | obligerope@gmail.com
Doors at 8
Stay and play until 1 AM
Private members are welcome to watch the sun come up.
L.E.A.P. Workshop - Psychology of kink : Finding Your Why with Autumn (BDSM/Kink Style Class)
The psychology of kink focuses on understanding some of our underlying needs BDSM, Kink, Fetish Play. Needs like safety, control, trust, or stress relief—that drive “non-normative”, sometimes sexual, sometimes not, desires. Often transforming pain, humiliation, degradation, or cake into pleasure. "Finding your why" involves exploring childhood influences, fantasies, or unmet emotional needs, and utilizing tools like self-reflection, F.A.F.O. and open communication to differentiate between healthy expression\exploration, and compulsion, self destructive behaviors. Presented by @FerventLight
All experience levels welcome
Solo or Partnered
This class will be presented in lecture/demo style format
Warning: There maybe the harming of some cakes in this class
Rope Basics Refresher / Social Hour: 6-7
Formal Class: 7-8:45(ish)
Stay & Play until 11:00
Learn, Explore, Apply, & Play. LGBTQIA+ and friends welcomed
Rope Jam & Figure Drawing Sunday (Live Figure Drawing in Rope 12:30-2:30ish)
Our Figure Drawing & Rope Jam Sunday -All are welcome, and any type of BDSM or kinky play is encouraged.
Tickets HERE
With the recent addition of "The Dungeon" at Oblige, attendees can now use the other half of the space to tie, play, socialize or relax durning the figure drawing.
This month there will be a figure-drawing opportunity at the Rope Jam. From 12:30-2:30, we will have models in rope for a few coordinated drawing sessions.
Three sessions will range from 20-30 minutes across different poses and different models. Oblige will have some materials on hand, but attendees should plan to bring their own sketching materials or tablets for digital sketches.
In general, this is meant to be an open, unstructured time for you to come in, grab a coffee or tea, relax, tie, skill share, and play. There’s no requirement to partake in the figure-drawing portion of the day. If this is not your thing, you are welcome to simply use the space however you wish during this time.
Our Open Play & Sunday Rope Jam -All are welcome, and any type of BDSM or kinky play is encouraged.
In general, this is meant to be an open, unstructured time for you to come in, grab a coffee or tea, relax, tie, skill share, and play. There’s no requirement to partake in the figure-drawing portion of the day. If this is not your thing, you are welcome to simply use the space however you wish during this time.
Cost:
Free for Members
$10 for a Member’s Guest
$20 for General Guests (50% for recent LEAP attendees)
No ticket sales at the door
Doors open at Noon. Come and go as you please until 5:00 PM.
B3 - Invite only Party
IYKYK - Attendance is by invite or approved request only.
Giving you what you’ve been asking for
L.E.A.P. Workshop - "Torture Ties: Evil Extras" with Xeno & Serena (Shibari/Rope Bondage Focused))
Fun for all skill levels | Solo or Partnered | Beginner to Advanced In person ONLY class. No Livestream or Recording
Presented by @_MrNobody with @ser0tonin_
This class is not designed for mild discomfort; the techniques in this class are force-amplifiers intended to cause intense pain. If you like the thought of coconut rope or sliding bottle caps under the rope you’ve tied on your bottom, then this is the class for you – we will cover that, and more. We will incorporate several adaptations into our rope in order to make the sensations more digging, abrasive, or compressive than we would be able to using rope alone. If you have something in mind to tie into rope (think: things that would suck to step on), feel free to bring them and get creative. If you have at least one length of roughly 8m rope, please bring it to class with you. Skill level required is minimal; some basic rope knowledge would be beneficial, but is not required, and a prior understanding of general rope safety is assumed. Self-riggers are welcome.
All experience levels welcome
For class you will need 1-3 hanks of 8-10M rope
About our Presenters
Xeno is your friendly neighborhood sadist. His favorite kinks include rope, knives, rough body play, and raw vulnerability – generally, with a heavy emphasis on pain. As a presenter, he values inclusivity and adaptability, and strives to make his classes work for the attendees, rather than the other way around. He has enjoyed planning, hosting, and presenting at various events since 2016, and is currently active with the Board of Education and a co-chair of the Board of Education TNG Committee. As a strong advocate of direct communication and critical thinking about risk profiles, he strives to promote responsible play at all intensity levels.
(Pronouns: he/they, FetLife: @_MrNobody)
Serena is sweet as can be! So, naturally, she paired up with a sadist to strike a perfect balance. She entered the community in early 2021, and quickly discovered her home here. Since then, she's spent her time fostering friendships, serving the community, learning all the kinky things, and exploring her interests. In general, she’s drawn to bottoming and dabbles in topping, but her love for receiving mean rope remains constant and true. She currently serves as secretary on the Board of Directors for the Board of Education, as well as a member of the Board of Education TNG Committee. (Pronouns: she/they, FetLife: @ser0tonin_)
Rope Basics Refresher / Social Hour: 6-7
Formal Class: 7-8:45(ish)
Stay & Play until 11:00
Learn, Explore, Apply, & Play. LGBTQIA+ and friends welcomed
L.E.A.P. Workshop - Impact Play 101- “How to and Why we do” with Paul & Courtney (BDSM Class)
“Impact Play” is kink/BDSM play where one partner strikes another using hands or toys. The general practice of this may include spanking, flogging, caning, paddling, whipping and more. Partners do this for a virally of reasons. Mutual gratification, be it mental or sexual. Trust-building or “funishment” in committed relationships. Sometimes is just for endorphin release between friends. Impact play can involves sensations ranging from light teasing to intense pain.
In this class we touch on all these things and dive way deeper into not only the “how to” but the “why we do”. Taking into consideration negotiation, best practices, desired outcomes and the shared experience of the intimacy this play can create.
Rope Basics Refresher / Social Hour: 6-7
Formal Class: 7-8:45(ish)
Stay & Play until 11:00
Learn, Explore, Apply, & Play. LGBTQIA+ and friends welcomed
Template: The Big O Discussion Munch: (Copy)
This month's discussion:
Blindspots- "What you wish everyone understood & what you’re missing"
We all have blindspots. As much as we try we can’t truly understand experiences we haven’t lived. This discussion is an opportunity to ask about what you don’t know, things you can’t see or fully understand. It’s also a chance to tell other attendees, venue and event organizers the things you have been quiet about for too long. Come help everyone do better and understand more.
Come share your our own thoughts/questions. Let’s talk it all through, share our experiences, and help old and new friends find their path. (Event & Discussion Below)
Doors open at 6:30PM and the munch will run until 10:00PM.
Social hour takes place before and after the actual discussion.
Wicked Weekend’s - "Prom Night"
It's Prom season again at Oblige and we're celebrating in all the ways we couldn't, shouldn't or didn't when we had the chance.
Formal “Prom” Photos
Prom Night Promises
Dress to Impress: Prom Formal
Door prizes for the most unique gown and tux (You will be "royalty" for the evening)
Prom Schedule
Doors @ 8:00PM
Formal Souvenir Prom Photos 8:15 -9:30
Live Music By you “Super Secret” DJ & Emcee 9:00-11:00
All attendees, enjoy the space as you like from the time you arrive, until 1:00AM
Members will have access until, it feels clearly irresponsible to still be at The Dungeon
Edge players are encouraged to check in with DMs or owners before Needle Play, Fire Play, or other Edgy scenes begin.
Exhibitionists and Voyeurs are welcome. Come enjoy this wickedly kinky evening with us.
Dress to impress- Prom Formal, Kink and fetish wear are fine. (Themed attire is preferred or “however you are comfortable”)
Doors at 8
Stay and play until 1 AM
Private members are welcome to watch the sun come up.
L.E.A.P. Workshop- “Basics & Fundamentals” with Serene_X & GoldenCourtney
Please join us as we kick off our “Intro to Shibari” with this public workshop available to everyone.
Find out more about the full weekend here: https://www.obligerope.org/beginner-intensive
This is a FULL workshop dedicated to showing you the basics and helping you learn the fundamental elements of shibari. For those that are brand new to rope, with or without a tying partner, ready to get a solid foundation. People who have “some” rope experience can greatly benefit from this class as well.
This class will require 1-2 hanks of 7-10m rope and you do not need a tying partner to perform all the content covered.
This will be a lecture, demo, see and do workshop. Expect to leave with a new tie or two and some new ideas for spicy time.
Rope Basics Refresher / Social Hour: 6-7
Formal Class: 7-8:45(ish)
Stay & Play until 11:00
Learn, Explore, Apply, & Play. LGBTQIA+ and friends welcomed
Beginners Weekend Intensive: “Intro to Shibari”
A full weekend focused on those looking to begin and solidify their Shibari journey.
We are dedicating an entire 8 class intensive weekend to how, we at Oblige, got started on our rope journey. Classes are intended for not only on those applying rope, but equally important, those that receive rope.
This “Intro to Shibari” intensive weekend will offer these 8 classes plus a Saturday night Wicked Weekend BDSM Edge Play Party.
See The Full Schedule HERE
Bonus BDSM Thursday -mid week pizza & play party
Looks like there’s an extra Thursday in April, so why not celebrate with a bit of kinky fun?
No class this week. No formal performances. Instead, we’re bringing in some pizza, dragging all the furniture out, and having a good old-fashioned play party. Play as you wish within the rules until midnight, this week.
Come as you are or dress as kinky as you like.
Tickets more info are available at our website on the events LEAP page. (We are not making a special link for this one yet so just go with it)
Rope Basics Refresher / Social Hour: 6-7
Formal Class: 7-8:45(ish)
Stay & Play until 11:00
Learn, Explore, Apply, & Play. LGBTQIA+ and friends welcomed
Elevation Rope Lab - "Thigh Binder"
This is class is a vetted class with limited capacity. To attend please see the "How to attend" section below.
This is a new style event by community request. Very different from our LEAP classes. We like to think of it as a more advanced “intensive style” workshop. Somewhere we can really hone our skills, practice, progress, and become inspired.
Elevation Rope Lab is for those that already understand the fundamentals of Japanese inspired rope bondage. It’s a space to explore intermediate and advanced ropes concepts and skills during the primary class/lab. It is also an opportunity to ask questions or share about rope topics/ties of your choosing and explore/learn as a group or a couple small groups.
April’s Primary Class/Lab:
A "Thigh Binder" with Paul and Courtney
We use this tie as an alternative to a folded leg binder or “Futo”. It is a one rope tie that, when suspended gives the body the same shape that a futo would, without the shin pain. It can be tied in suspension sequences while the person in ropes is already in the air. We plan to demo ALL the ways we use this and attachment points.
Format for these evenings are as follows.
Doors at 5:00
Primary Class/Lab: 5:15-6:45/7
Skill Share Lab: 7-8:15
The space will close at 8:30 for non-members (those unaccompanied by a member)
How to attend
Those wishing to attend can request to do so by DM and marking themselves as “going” or “interested” on this event. Please indicate in your DM if you will be, applying ropes, receiving ropes, switching or auditing. If we are not familiar with your skill set, we will reach out to discuss the prerequisites. Those wishing to audit only will be given the criteria at that time.
From there approved attendees will receive event details and ticketing links.
Prerequisites :
The expectation is that all attendees come with a practiced understanding of Japanese inspired rope bondage. What that looks like will be different for all of us. Basically if you feel comfortable following along and keeping up with most rope classes, you will be able to follow along and keep up here. If not you are always welcome to audit the class and soak up what you can.
People applying ropes should have a working understanding of suspension uplines and attaching styles.
People receiving ropes should have body awareness and be able to and willing to effectively communicate their limits while in ropes
All attendees, tying or being tied, should have a good understanding of nerve risks and indicators of trouble. They should also be able to care for themselves and be accountable for their own tolerances while in an educational setting
Attendees at any skill level are welcome to audit the class
You will want a full rope kit and something to take notes
This evening is designed for partnered tying, while the ticketing for the events is per individual.
More than just a rope class
The workshop portion of the evening is only half of the event. The second half of the evening is going to be a bit of an “uncon” session. If there is something attendees want to learn or teach/share with others, you are encouraged to ask/offer. We will be collecting note cards with your questions, desires to learn or offerings to teach. During a quick break between sessions, attendees will silently select their preferences and we will break into 1-3 smaller groups to explore the topics that suit us.
To attend please sign up through the schedule below
Tickets are per person. The primary class will be focused for tying pairs. When you are signing up please indicate if will be:
-applying ropes
-receiving ropes
-switching
-auditing
L.E.A.P. Workshop - “A Point Of No Return”: Exploring Edge Play - with Paul & Courtney (BDSM Class)
It’s about time. After years of negotiation and heavy edge play @Serene_X & @GoldenCourtney are ready to bring their experience and insight to you.
Staring into the dark abyss of our desires, how do we navigate those waters and bring to life our darker fantasies and edgier play? Or should we?
In this class we will discuss how to identify those taboo desires and urges in ourselves, how we get comfortable talking about them, and potentially bringing them to light as we step over the threshold to “a point of no return”
Rope Basics Refresher / Social Hour: 6-7
Formal Class: 7-8:45(ish)
Stay & Play until 11:00
Learn, Explore, Apply, & Play. LGBTQIA+ and friends welcomed
FemDom Night- A BDSM Play Party (by approved request or invite only)
Attendance is by invite or approved request only.
Announcing: Fem Dom Night- A BDSM Play Party
Tickets are on our “Invite Only” website page. Link provided to approved attendees.
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An evening for tops/Dommes/switches that identify as Female, Femme, Fem of center, to run wild and use the space as it was full intended. Those (regardless of gender) that wish to server, play, bask in or simply worship this energy are welcome to come and do so.
Special to us this evening:
Following their full day “Modern FemDom” workshop, Goddess @GretaVDT & @ThatBigBadCoyote, form Saint Louis, will be hosting you, along with all of their workshop attendees. Find out more about that HERE
This strongly vetted party will be in the same regard as or members/ invite only/ private party night. No area of the space will be restricted and all attendees should feel free to explore and play as they feel comfortable, abiding to the strict event protocol.
Protocol is simple:
-ONLY Female, Femme, Fem of center, identifying folx will be permitted to “top” in play/scenes.
**Attendance is by invite or approved request only. Please reach out with a PM or email to request the ticket link.
We will NOT be approving:
Anyone we don’t know,
Anyone that does not have an established presence in the BDSM/kink community
-or-Anyone that can't provide a glowing references from someone above.
All of our Private Members and their guests are welcome (as always) but will need to follow the protocol for the evening.
Doors at 8
Stay and play until 1 AM
Private members are welcome to watch the sun come up.
Modern FemDom: with Goddess Greta and Coyote (A Full day workshop & Private Play Party)
“Modern FemDom”
A Four-Part Workshop & Invite Only FemDom Night
Join us for a full day with Goddess @GretaVDT & @ThatBigBadCoyote as they take us through a series of FemDom focused classes and lead us into an evening dedicated to those that are passionate about Femme led dynamics, FemDom and the energy that brings to private parties at Oblige.
Here's the details
Doors at 9:00am with a social hour/meet & greet
Morning sessions:
10:00 AM - 11:00 AM) “Modern Femdom”:
Goddess Greta shares her personal experiences and beliefs as well as a primer for anyone who is unfamiliar with the reality of Femdom
11:15 AM - 12:45 AM “CBT in Rope”:
CBT changes how we use and think about rope on our bottoms. This class will go over basic safety, ways to assert your dominance, and types of rope that are acceptable. We will also cover devices and tools that can be used alongside your rope to heighten the experience.
Lunch Break / Stay and Play
12:45 PM - 1:45 PM
Use the space as you wish if you would like to practice the morning content
Afternoon sessions:
1:45 PM - 2:45 PM “Accessible High Protocol”:
Through the lens of a modern Fem Dom. Something to think about as a foundation for evenings play party.
3:00 PM - 4:30 PM “Ritual Mummification & Objectification Mummification 101”:
In this class we will focus less on connecting with your bottom and creating intimacy, and more on using mummification to provide the experience of objectification and how we can increase it with sensory deprivation. We will also cover basic human furniture play and other aspects of using your bottom as your object. In the final 30 minutes there are some very quick partial body mummifications you can try. Greta & Coyote will be available to give some hands-on instruction and aid.
Dinner break
4:30 PM - 8:00 PM
Use the space as you wish durning this break. Those that wish to rest, clean up, or play, are welcome to do so until the party begins
FemDom Night Private Party
8:00 PM - 1:00 AM(ish)
An evening for tops/Dommes/switches that identify as Female, Femme, Fem of center, to run wild and use the space as it was fully intended. Those (regardless of gender) that wish to serve, play, bask in or simply worship this energy are welcome to come and do so.
Protocol is simple: ONLY Female, Femme, Fem of center, identifying folx will be permitted to “top” in play/scenes.
Doors and Social Hour at 8:00
Performances @9:00
Play party until 1:00am
Performance & Play - "A FemDom Performance" Featuring Goddess GretaVDT & ThatBigBadCoyote
Our Performance & Play evenings @Oblige, are rooted in live erotic performance with BDSM/Kink/Fetish play at the foundation of them all. This month our performers have ALL of that for you and more!
*Joining us from Saint Louis, Missouri, Goddess @GretaVDT and @ThatBigBadCoyote are bringing us a FemDom performance featuring elements of selftie rope suspension, CBT, sensation play. *
Doors and Social Hour at 8:00pm
Performances at 9:00pm
Stay and play after the performance until 1:00am
Please come early to get checked in. Doors are closed at 10:30pm. No guaranteed entry during the performance. If you are buying tickets for a person other than yourself you will need to buy them separate and please use their proper information.
Attendees are welcome to dress however they are comfortable, though nice evening wear and kink/fetish wear are always appreciated. If you like to be "a little extra," this is a night to do that. After the performance, feel free to stay and play. Use the space as it was intended. Explore “The Dungeon” and Enjoy “The Rope Room." Find all of the space's hidden features... 😈
Doors and Social Hour at 8:00
Performances @9:00
Play party until 1:00am
L.E.A.P. Workshop - “Pretty Patterns and Wearable Shibari" with Flynn & Emmie
Join @Flynn_Racer and @-emmie- as they share their “Pretty Patterns and Wearable Shibari" class. In this class we will explore basic patterns, and classic shibari designs. These ties also function as "wearable shibari" for next event you want to be a bit extra at.
The ties will be applying basics to allow participants to understand flow and rope movement while creating something fun and enjoyable, all while practicing basic building blocks
All experience levels welcome
For class you will need 3-5 hanks of 8-10M rope
Rope Basics Refresher / Social Hour: 6-7
Formal Class: 7-8:45(ish)
Stay & Play until 11:00
Learn, Explore, Apply, & Play. LGBTQIA+ and friends welcomed
Burlesque Night: Performance & Play
The Burlesque Night has become one of our favorite performance events at Oblige. Fans and feather boas. Pasties and tassels. The seductive theatrical displays. The music. And of course, some of our favorite Detroit performer's.
Host/Emcee: Eve Vale
Joined by some of Detroit's finest performers.
Their hour-long show will set the stage for a kinky as fuck evening as only Oblige does.
Doors and Social Hour at 8:00
Performances @9:00
Play party until 1:00am
L.E.A.P. Workshop - “Intellectual Sadism” with Miss Vee (BDSM/Kink Focused Class)
Kinky Psychology: Intellectual Sadism explores how psychological insight, communication, and perception can be used to create powerful mental dynamics within consensual power exchange. Presented by @BegForMissVee, his class focuses on the concept of intellectual sadism, where influence and control are expressed through words, emotional awareness, and an understanding of another person’s mind rather than through physical intensity.
You will learn how to identify a partner’s desires, fears, and psychological triggers, and how these elements can shape a dynamic. This class examines how language, tone, and perception can impact a submissive’s mental and emotional state, and how these tools can be used responsibly within consensual kink.
We also cover important topics such as recognizing and responding to sub-drop, different types of aftercare that support psychological play, and ways to maintain emotional safety when engaging in mentally intense dynamics. The goal is to help you better understand the psychological aspects of power exchange while emphasizing consent, communication, and care for all partners involved.
Rope Basics Refresher / Social Hour: 6-7
Formal Class: 7-8:45(ish)
Stay & Play until 11:00
Learn, Explore, Apply, & Play. LGBTQIA+ and friends welcomed
The Big O Discussion Munch: Recovery in Kink- "What you hear here stays here. Here here." IFYKYK
This month's discussion:
Recovery in kink. “What it’s like as a recovering addict or alcoholic in Kink"
Many kinksters are in recovery from substance abuse. What is it about the kink lifestyle that so many former addicts gravitate to? BDSM can act as a powerful, non-chemical way to experience intensity, connection, and vulnerability, which can actually foster, rather than hinder, sobriety. Replacing alcohol/drugs with intentional and consensual BDSM can provide the emotional release and endorphin rush that was previously sought through substances.
If you are in recovery, or substance abuse has touched your life in some way please join us in this months discussion so we can better understand our partners and peers in recovery.
Come share your our own thoughts/questions. Let’s talk it all through, share our experiences, and help old and new friends find their path.
Doors open at 6:30PM and the munch will run until 10:00PM.
Social hour takes place before and after the actual discussion.
Tickets HERE
Rope Jam & Figure Drawing Sunday @Oblige (Live Figure Drawing in Rope 12:30-2:30ish)
Our Figure Drawing & Rope Jam Sunday -All are welcome, and any type of BDSM or kinky play is encouraged.
Tickets HERE
With the recent addition of "The Dungeon" at Oblige, attendees can now use the other half of the space to tie, play, socialize or relax durning the figure drawing.
This month there will be a figure-drawing opportunity at the Rope Jam. From 12:30-2:30, we will have models in rope for a few coordinated drawing sessions.
Three sessions will range from 20-30 minutes across different poses and different models. Oblige will have some materials on hand, but attendees should plan to bring their own sketching materials or tablets for digital sketches.
In general, this is meant to be an open, unstructured time for you to come in, grab a coffee or tea, relax, tie, skill share, and play. There’s no requirement to partake in the figure-drawing portion of the day. If this is not your thing, you are welcome to simply use the space however you wish during this time.
Our Open Play & Sunday Rope Jam -All are welcome, and any type of BDSM or kinky play is encouraged.
In general, this is meant to be an open, unstructured time for you to come in, grab a coffee or tea, relax, tie, skill share, and play. There’s no requirement to partake in the figure-drawing portion of the day. If this is not your thing, you are welcome to simply use the space however you wish during this time.
Cost:
Free for Members
$10 for a Member’s Guest
$20 for General Guests (50% for recent LEAP attendees)
No ticket sales at the door
Doors open at Noon. Come and go as you please until 5:00 PM.