The FMs

Performance & Play

THURSDAY November 20th

“Backstage Pass”:

Power Exchange, Art, and Everyday Life with Athena Kali & The FMs

Play Party, Rock Concert, and rare look “Backstage” into a truly profound D/s dynamic.

Part 1

“Setting the Stage”:

Q&A / Discussion with the FMs

It's one thing to live a beautiful, intense life of power exchange; it's another to balance that life with the grind of a successful, touring band, the demands of a career, raising children, maintaining a home, and nurturing other relationships. Can a collar coexist with a rehearsal schedule, a mortgage, and a school run? Absolutely. Join @Astraea (The FMs’ Lead Singer and submissive/slave) and her owner @Athena_Kali (The FMs keyboardist & sax player) for an intimate, unscripted Q&A and class discussion exploring the true mechanics of a life lived fully at the intersection of kink and contemporary success. 

  • Their “Setting the Stage” Discussion Will Explore:

    This discussion will delve deep into the real-world protocols and compromises that allow a D/s relationship to thrive amidst relentless professional and personal pressures, and how themes of kink, submission, and gender identity take life in The FMs music:

    The Balancing Act: How do a successful music career, band management, home ownership, family life, and pets harmoniously blend with a 24/7 power dynamic?

    Kink as Art: We will examine the intense themes of slavery, ownership, submission, and gender freedom woven into Astraea's lyrical work with The FMs, and how her reality informs her art.

    Protocol & Prioritization: Hear about the specific agreements, high and low protocol, and communication strategies they use to keep their connection strong while juggling shows, tours and demanding schedules.

    Freedom Through Submission: A discussion of how the foundational concepts of kink and submission can, paradoxically, be an ultimate source of personal and creative freedom and empowerment.

    Bring: Your most burning, honest questions, and an open perspective.

Part 2

Following the Discussion: A Musical Performance by The FMS

A powerful, high-energy rock performance by The FMs, where you can hear Astraea (aka The FMs lead singer Matte) personal philosophies brought to vivid life on stage.

The FMs are a bastion of queer music, exuding sex, and style through their politically-charged pop missives and pioneered the genre of babygirl synth punk-rock. With a lineup of all queer, trans and nonbinary musicians from NYC & Upstate New York, they seek to undermine the patriarchy with ferocious love. Bearing a motto “Soft is Subversive,” The FMs bring a punk-rock barbie girl candy fever dream aesthetic with neon lights and large balloons to their now legendary live shows. They have been featured in Billboard Magazine, The NY Daily News, GLAAD, and The Showtime Network. 

Find out more about The FMs

YouTube - youtube.com/thefms  | Instagram - instagram.com/thefms  | Spotify - HERE

Part 3

“Stay and Play”

The Dungeon & The Rope Room

After the show feel free to this beatifully kinky space “as it was intended”.

Encompassing the entire 2nd floor of our building and spanning 7,000 sqft. The space is equal parts shibari studio, dungeon space and lounge, with 25+ hard points for suspension, 30+ pieces of BDSM play furniture, 25 conversational seating areas suitable for socializing and/or play. Elegant and comfortable with more amenities than we can list. 

Schedule for the Evening

  • Doors and Social Hour at 6:00

  • “Backstage” Discussion at 7:00

  • Concert Performance at 8:00

  • Stay and Play until Midnight